No contact is the soundest strategy for getting over an LO, but it's also often logistically tricky, difficult to implement, and difficult to stick to. Whenever you're faced with a problem …
More on midlife limerence
Midlife is a common time for limerence emergencies. There are a few good reasons for this, as we've discussed before, but in the previous post I didn't really consider what the midlife limerent was …
Case study: limerent while single
Recently, a reader, Kay, got in touch to ask about the differences in dealing with limerence for single versus married limerents. I do tend to write from the perspective of the marrieds - partly …
What’s happened to my spouse?
I've written a lot about the experience of limerence from the perspective of the limerent going through it. The impacts of limerence ripple out much further, though. I recently had an email from a …
Is limerence always about pair-bonding?
Berty emailed me with a thought-provoking question about limerence and pair-bonding: I'm still puzzling at the pair-bonding as the only source. It seems too narrow - especially for those of us well …
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Guest post on The Neuroscience of “Affair Fog”
I got in touch with Tim Tedder over at AffairHealing.com a couple of weeks ago after reading an article of his called But My Affair is Different. The parallels with limerence and affair fog were …
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Case study: limerent for an ex
Alice is in a spot of bother. She has been married for nearly ten years, and met her husband after a previous relationship ended. It was kind of a "soft ending" in some respects: We didn't dislike …
Seeking healthy rewards
A central premise of the "limerence as person addiction" concept is that limerence becomes addictive because of the dopamine high. Being with LO is rewarding. Thinking about LO is rewarding. You get a …
Freedom from limerence
A recent comment by long-time friend of the blog, Sharnhorst, has got me thinking. The thrust of his idea is that studying limerence, understanding limerence, and trading anecdotes and wisdom with …
Announcement: Launch of the Emergency Deprogramming Course
May 19th Edit: Paypal payments now enabled. I've mentioned a few times recently that I've been working on a new course to help limerents who find themselves deep in the person-addiction pit and …
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The purposeful living reading list
Reader Samantha got in touch with me a while ago to ask for more information about living a more purposeful life. Specifically, she asked about the books that I would recommend about purposeful living …
When things have got physical
Regular readers have probably spotted by now that I'm anti-infidelity. I cynically take these contrarian positions just to shock The problem with infidelity is the betrayal, of course, and not …