Regular commenter Marcia raised an interesting question in the comments section from the last post, about being hesitant to try new *ahem* adventures. I always wondered if it was my fear talking. …
The morality of monogamy
In the last couple of posts, we've covered some key arguments for why monogamy exists and why it is so hard to sustain. In this last of a trilogy, I want to take on the moral cases for and against …
Why is monogamy so hard?
In the last post I laid out a case for why monogamy exists. It provoked some sturdy objections in the comments, and some good discussion as to whether the arguments were flawed. This week the goal …
Why does monogamy exist?
An interesting discussion about monogamy broke out in the comments of the last post. The subject of limerence and polyamory comes up from time to time, and not only from limerents who are …
Case study: limerence and ego
A reader got in touch recently, to ponder about the relationship between limerence and ego. A couple of years ago, R found herself in the awful sweet spot of bathing in professional praise and …
Can infatuation be platonic?
From time to time I hear from people who are experiencing the symptoms of limerence for someone they are not sexually attracted to. For many people this can be a confusing experience. Is it …
Limerence as escape
One of the arguments I make about why we are vulnerable to limerence is that the extraordinary sensations associated with that mental state of total infatuation are transformational. If life in …
Another limerence podcast
Busy times in the Dr L household, but here's a link to an interview I did recently with Dr Jessica Higgins on her Empowered relationship podcast. In it I talk all about limerence, a bit about my …
How to get over infatuation
It's tough when you can't get someone out of your head. At first, infatuation can be a giddy and exhilarating experience. The thrill of attraction, the promise of romance... it's …
Dealing with the guilt of limerence
Recently, commenter BLE raised the issue of guilt. Specifically, guilt that she is currently finding it hard to be fully present for her son. It's a battle we all face - being there for the …
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Post navigation: a greatest hits collection
The Living with Limerence site has grown steadily over the last five years, and we're now at a point where it's hard to keep track of all the content. I find myself frequently responding to comments …
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Limerence as an altered state of mind
Dorothy Tennov described limerence as an altered mental state. In her early work in understanding romantic attachment, she gathered and curated the self-reported experiences of people who were …
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