Another check in at the LwL coffeehouse. It's fun to sometimes speculate about the kinds of people who make for dodgy limerent objects. It's also useful to adopt a more mocking or cynical view …
Why does someone have a crush on me?
Every now and again I receive an email from someone who has become an object of infatuation for someone they didn't mean to attract. Having come across the concept of limerence they realise that they …
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Are you a limerent?
The limerence quiz Limerence is an altered mental state of intense infatuation that many people experience in the early stages of love. This questionnaire is designed to test whether you have …
What causes limerence?
Limerence can be neatly described as an altered mental state of intense infatuation. An obvious question raised by this definition is: why does it happen? What causes it? While it's a natural …
Coffeehouse: how to deal with difficulties
Following on from last week's musings, this week I've decided to inaugurate a new feature for the blog: the everlasting thread. The goal for this is to be a specific place for open discussions - a …
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Reflections on five years of blogging
I started writing Living with Limerence on Valentine's day 2017. At the time, I had no plan. I was coming out of an unwanted limerence experience, and filled with a dammed-up reservoir of emotions …
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Flow state, limerence recovery and purposeful living
The ultimate solution to limerence is purposeful living. That's because limerence is a hyperactive mental state that needs to be de-escalated, built on an underlying psychological vulnerability …
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Limerence for unhealthy people
From time to time, I hear from people who repeatedly become limerent for individuals who are unavailable, unreliable, or just generally have bad character. Their limerent objects are unhealthy to bond …
The BBC discovers limerence
From time to time I do a quick YouTube search on limerence, stimulated by curiosity about how prevalent the concept is becoming in wider society. Today I discovered a BBC video that is an impressively …
How to stop thinking about someone you can’t have
It's a curious thing, obsession. One day you meet an amazing, attractive person, maybe get to know them a little, and luxuriate in the warmth of their delightful company. You find yourself …
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Who are you attracted to?
I've written a few posts about what makes someone unusually attractive, why some people seem so addictive, and what kind of people are good at provoking infatuation - what makes them, in short, …
Case study: post-limerence melancholy
Today's limerence quandary comes from C, who is coming out of her most recent limerent episode into an emotional wasteland. C is married, and has been limerent multiple times, both before and …
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