I write a lot about marriage and limerence (because I'm a married limerent), but I sometimes hear from friends, family and the media all about the perils of modern dating. So, for those readers still …
Oversharing
One of the common symptoms of limerence, is an overwhelming sense of emotional connection with the limerent object. Many limerents report feeling an easy, natural intimacy with their LO that makes …
Limerence and the sexless marriage
Back in the early days of the blog, I wrote about limerence and libido. I argued that problems can arise in long-term relationships for those limerents who have a very tight mental association between …
What if they’re out of your league?
In the comments section of a previous post, B raised an interesting point about the situation where limerent and LO are mismatched in terms of physical attractiveness. That got me thinking: should …
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Barriers to purposeful living
In the last post, we talked about how to plan a purposeful life, and how that shift in lifestyle can protect you against limerence. It sets you up to be more resilient to change, and less vulnerable …
Planning your purposeful life
I talk a lot about purposeful living, and why I think it’s the best cure for limerence. In part, that's because limerence often manifests itself during periods of stress, grief, or other big …
Fast track to freedom
Understanding limerence is a pre-requisite for overcoming it. In the process of writing my book, I revisited a lot of the key ideas that I've been blogging about these last three years, and played …
Case study update: karma edition
Back in the pre-event era of last summer, reader Evie got in touch to ask what the hell had happened to her husband. Said husband had become limerent for a co-worker and gone full devaluation hulk-out …
Resisting limerent urges
Limerence is an extraordinary desire. The intensity of our longing for LO falls well beyond the usual range of everyday experience, which is probably why we find it so easy to believe that our LOs …
More on the styles of love
Following on from previous posts about the different types and styles of love, here's a video interview with Helen Fisher that is quite …
Love in the time of corona
OK, maybe the title should be "limerence in the time of covid-19", but I couldn't resist the literary allusion. The current pandemic is making us all face how our lives can suddenly be thrown into …
Why do they seem so special?
Idealisation is a big part of limerence. It’s also a big part of the ‘object’ bit of limerent object. We elevate these mysterious people who walk among us into paragons - impossible romantic ideals. …