One of the topics that comes up frequently in discussions about limerence recovery, is the issue of guilt. Sometimes arguments about guilt focus on assigning blame, or what constitutes a moral …
Future planning
It's summer in England, and after a crazy period organising return to work after the coronavirus lockdown (wwwaaaayyyy harder than organising going into lockdown), I'm finally looking forward to some …
When things go sour
I've always taken the view that limerence is both a good and bad thing. If you are mutually limerent for someone who is free to reciprocate, then life is blissful. But that doesn't happen very …
Freedom from limerence is…
In a previous post, I wrote about freedom from limerence and all the benefits that blessed liberty offers. Sharnhorst added a comment suggesting a good topic: what are the "markers of …
Risk taking
For all its explanatory power, limerence hasn't made much impact on the psychological or medical literature. My suspicion is that other theories (mainly attachment and co-dependency) came along soon …
The morality of limerence
There's a lot of moral philosophising going on at the moment, so naturally I thought I should have a go. What could possibly go wrong? The stimulus for this particular topic is the coincidence …
Case study: LO wanted my friend
There are lots of obstacles along the road to recovery from limerence. Here at LwL we advocate for an internal focus for responding to unwanted limerence: it's happening in our heads, we can't control …
How common is limerence?
Two of the most frequent questions I receive from limerents who have recently become aware of the phenomenon are: How common is limerence?Does it correlate with other personality traits or …
The green shoots of recovery
Becoming more self-aware is a core skill for recovering from limerence. The ability to detach your self-scrutiny from your moment-to-moment emotional state allows you to be more aware of what you are …
Case study: ghosted by LO
Reader G got in touch about a speed bump on her road to recovery: I have a question - you talk a lot about the importance of going no-contact to get over Limerence, but what if LO is the one to …
And I want you so it’s an obsession
As responsible parents trying to raise well-adjusted children, my wife and I will occasionally expose them to important, soul-enriching cultural touchstones. You know: museums, art galleries, opera. …
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Dating red flags for limerents
I write a lot about marriage and limerence (because I'm a married limerent), but I sometimes hear from friends, family and the media all about the perils of modern dating. So, for those readers still …