Life has really happened to me this week, so in lieu of the next post on purposeful living, here's a video that is cheering and optimistic about how to find love: …
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Morality, limerence and purposeful living
A couple of years ago, I read the book "The Righteous Mind" by Jonathan Haidt. For those unfamiliar, it introduces the concept of Moral Foundations Theory, which emerged from Haidt's research into the …
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Case study: why is limerence so painful?
Prolonged limerence is painful. Today's case study is from Lara, who is well versed with the principles of recovery we espouse here at LwL, but is nonetheless struggling with this part of the …
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Honesty as a foundation for purposeful living
In the last post I outlined some of the key elements of purposeful living. Today, I'm going to dive a bit deeper into one of the foundational principles: honesty. Honesty can be interpreted in …
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The elements of purposeful living
One of the main goals of this site is to help people make sense of what's happening to them during limerence. Understanding that such intense romantic infatuation is a defined phenomenon, that it has …
How can you tell if someone is limerent?
Other people's behaviour can be baffling. When someone is limerent, this principle is even more obvious. We've all succumbed to limerent madness at one time or another. Some of the classics of the …
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Community, coaching and purposeful living
A Happy New Year to all at LwL! It seems to have become something of a fashion this year to bolster the usual wishes for happiness with the hope that 2023 will be less eventful than the recent …
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New Year purpose
2022 is nearly done. It's been quite a year. In the UK we've been through three Prime Ministers and two Monarchs. It's fair to say there's been a lot of change. The last few posts have been …
Coffeehouse: limerence at Christmas
Another year rolls round to its end, and here in the UK we've had some proper Christmassy weather, with subzero temperatures and a frost-bedecked world. The betting markets are doing their usual …
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How to get over someone who doesn’t want you
In the beginning, an obsessive infatuation can feel amazing. Not only do you get the natural giddy high of euphoria, but the romantic surrender of being completely besotted also has fairy-tale appeal. …
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Sources of conflict
Here's a provocative and stimulating video about sexual conflict in humans: https://youtu.be/mu4Uki8VyLc I have to confess that my first reaction to the talk was scepticism, for two reasons. …
Cultivating purpose
I started this blog in February 2017. At the time, I was coming down from a brutal limerence episode, and my primary motive was to exorcise the lingering feelings that were clinging on, and to …