Here's a great presentation by the philosopher Ruth Chang on how the choices we make create the distinct person that we are. It's not specific to limerence, of course - more related to the concept …
Article on limerence as pathology
Here's an interesting article from The Week that outlines some of the history of Dorothy Tennov's work, and the current tendency to push limerence as a term reserved for pathological obsessive …
Help! Someone is limerent for me…
That laugh was a bit loud for your feeble joke, wasn't it? That gaze was quite prolonged. Why do they keep touching their hair? Is their hand shaking? Why have they bought you a gift? So. You …
Therapy for limerence
Much of the discussion about limerence in psychological circles explicitly pathologises it as an experience, and works from the premise that it is a mental disorder arising from an underlying trauma …
Infidelity and limerence
In a previous post I wrote about emotional affairs, but sometimes matters move beyond the emotional to the physical. Hearing the immortal phrase: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," has become …
A good vid
Busy today with a new cat. But here's a good TEDtalk on love: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OYfoGTIG7pY&index=1&list=PL0511CDD7379488C0 …
Resilience
When you're going through hell... keep going. Winston Churchill. As I've grown older, I've come to realise that one of the most important life skills to cultivate is resilience. It perhaps seems …
Choosing well
Awareness of limerence and the effects it has on your behaviour is an important step in establishing healthy relationships. Once the key features of limerence are understood, that knowledge can help …
Emotional affairs
Spend some time on the pages of the collective sum of human misery that is the agony aunt blogosphere, and you'll come across the idea of the "emotional affair". Definitions vary somewhat, but the …
Limerence links
I'm still a little taken aback by how limited the awareness of limerence is in popular culture. In fact, there is even a surprising dearth of information about limerence on the web. Here are some of …
Why does limerence exist?
One of the curious consequences of learning that non-limerents exist, is that for the first time we limerents can start to wonder both "who has it better", and "what is limerence for, anyway"? The …
Can’t we just be friends?
Is it possible to be friends with your LO? You do, after all, enjoy their company. And they really seem to understand you. And you care about their happiness. Surely those are all important aspects of …