When limerent for someone unsuitable, you are faced with the challenge of using your judgement and wisdom to overcome the neurophysiological storm of addictive reward, and get away from the most …
Romantic love
Busy with work, but here's another good video by Helen Fisher. Her checklist for romantic love is a near perfect definition of limerence. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aoKbMPyBwF8 Bit …
Help! My partner is limerent for someone else
One of the hardest aspects of limerence to live with is developing limerence when in long-term relationship. If it's hard for the limerent, it's even worse for the significant other. If you are the …
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Article on long-term love
Following on from the post on libido, here's an interesting article in Psychology today about long term romantic love. It is possible to sustain the romantic/erotic connection for many years. It …
Limerence, libido, and the challenge of long term romance
In the last post I analysed the sometimes strange intersections between lust and limerence. One thing that both phenomena share is transience. For lust, it can be very short-lived. Limerence is more …
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Limerence and sex
From the time it was first defined, limerence has been closely associated with sexual desire. LO is wanted as a sexual partner, rather than an intimate friend or companion. [Aside - it would be …
Limerence and the friendzone
We've all been there. Limerence is nucleating, and you are getting the euphoric thrill of connection with a new person. They are rapidly becoming your LO, and you are trying to gauge the degree of …
Hard choices
Here's a great presentation by the philosopher Ruth Chang on how the choices we make create the distinct person that we are. It's not specific to limerence, of course - more related to the concept …
Article on limerence as pathology
Here's an interesting article from The Week that outlines some of the history of Dorothy Tennov's work, and the current tendency to push limerence as a term reserved for pathological obsessive …
Help! Someone is limerent for me…
That laugh was a bit loud for your feeble joke, wasn't it? That gaze was quite prolonged. Why do they keep touching their hair? Is their hand shaking? Why have they bought you a gift? So. You …
Therapy for limerence
Much of the discussion about limerence in psychological circles explicitly pathologises it as an experience, and works from the premise that it is a mental disorder arising from an underlying trauma …
Infidelity and limerence
In a previous post I wrote about emotional affairs, but sometimes matters move beyond the emotional to the physical. Hearing the immortal phrase: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," has become …