A couple of days ago, Oldtimer jumped into the comments section of an old post about the implausibility of being friends with an LO. The comment was thought-provoking: I have come back to say that …
Incompatible limerent objects
One of the recurring themes of the blog is the tension that often exists between limerence and long-term love. Sometimes, when the stars align, limerence can transition into the kind of affectional …
Taking action to improve your life
At the start of the year, I began a series of posts on the elements of purposeful living. It's turned out to be an eventful year for me, and not gone the way I planned, but as summer comes to an end …
Coffeehouse: managing competing demands
Long time readers of the blog will have noticed that I periodically reflect on how to best manage the site, given the multiple roles it plays. This is another of those posts. First, I want Living …
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The overselling of pop neuroscience
Last week, Limerent Emeritus drew my attention to a thought-provoking article in the Washington Post about a how some self-help books "express great confidence in theories of the brain that are still …
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How to make decisions
The last post was all about the need to be decisive when living a purposeful life, but, like many aspects of self development, it is easier said than done. Part of the reason is that we all have …
How indecision worsens limerence
A question that commonly comes up after people discover the concept of limerence is: can I have the good without the bad? I'm having it and eating it, so there The euphoria of early limerence …
What is within your control?
A defining feature of limerence is emotional instability - someone else seems to have control over your mood. When they are happy, you are euphoric; when they are unhappy, you are anxious and …
The need for courage
In the last post I covered how limerence can be the trigger for renewal, and a starting point for transforming life for the better. While this is an optimistic perspective, there is an unfortunate - …
How limerence can lead to renewal
In the last few posts, I've concentrated on the elements of purposeful living. There are two reasons why. First, purposeful living is a good way to protect yourself against the destructive aspects …
Who do you want to be?
Limerence can cause a profound shock to our sense of identity. Limerence is by definition extraordinary - it takes us outside ourselves, transcends our mundane everyday lives, upends our previous …
Cultivating self-awareness
In the last post, I argued for the importance of self-awareness for living a purposeful life. Two of the major barriers to self-awareness are ego-protecting rationalisation, and ego-depleting …