One of the commonest situations where limerence becomes a destructive force in life is when it happens within the confines of a marriage. Unsurprisingly, I've written about this scenario many times in …
Limerence in the New York Times
A few weeks ago I had an enjoyable chat with a journalist, Amanda McCracken, who was writing an article about limerence for the New York Times. The article is now out (paywall). It's a good …
Coffeehouse: would you turn off your limerence?
When I first started blogging about limerence, I was careful to talk about the upsides to the condition. I do think limerence adds to life, certainly when you are young and single and looking for …
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Case study: should I wait for my limerent husband to come to his senses?
This week's dilemma is from a reader who is not themselves a limerent, but discovered the phenomenon to her cost when her husband became besotted with another woman: My husband changed personality …
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More on the limerence binary
The last post covered an analysis of whether limerence is a spectrum or a binary - in other words, can you feel "quite limerent", or can people actually be sorted into distinct "limerent" and …
Is limerence binary or a spectrum?
One of the unanswered questions that keeps me occupied in my ongoing investigation of limerence also comes up surprisingly often in my mailbox: Is limerence a specific condition, or is there a …
Winter coffeehouse
It's the end of another year, and quite an eventful one for the Dr L household. Long time readers may have noticed that I tend to get a bit of fire in my belly come New Year, and start outlining …
Holiday limerence
Anniversaries are a perilous time for limerence. Significant dates hold a surprising amount of psychological weight, and tend to sharpen already brittle emotions. The cultural expectations of …
Is limerence personal or universal?
One of the challenges of taking an academic approach to studying limerence is that so much of the evidence about it comes from personal testimony. When Dorothy Tennov first proposed the concept of …
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Coffeehouse: the comfort of the familiar
Time for another virtual sip at the LwL coffeehouse. Tasty Today's topic of conversation (or at least, the starting point - I know you wonderful, crazy folks ramble wherever you may) is inspired …
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How risky are limerent fantasies?
Limerent reverie - daydreaming and fantasising about consummation with your limerent object - is a habit that almost all limerents indulge in. It is a private pleasure, a secret source of reward, a …
Limerence limbo
Note: this is an updated version of an older post. One of the most disruptive mental traps linked to limerence is the state of indefinite tension best described as limerence limbo. We are …