It's the end of another year, and quite an eventful one for the Dr L household. Long time readers may have noticed that I tend to get a bit of fire in my belly come New Year, and start outlining …
Holiday limerence
Anniversaries are a perilous time for limerence. Significant dates hold a surprising amount of psychological weight, and tend to sharpen already brittle emotions. The cultural expectations of …
Is limerence personal or universal?
One of the challenges of taking an academic approach to studying limerence is that so much of the evidence about it comes from personal testimony. When Dorothy Tennov first proposed the concept of …
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Coffeehouse: the comfort of the familiar
Time for another virtual sip at the LwL coffeehouse. Tasty Today's topic of conversation (or at least, the starting point - I know you wonderful, crazy folks ramble wherever you may) is inspired …
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How risky are limerent fantasies?
Limerent reverie - daydreaming and fantasising about consummation with your limerent object - is a habit that almost all limerents indulge in. It is a private pleasure, a secret source of reward, a …
Limerence limbo
Note: this is an updated version of an older post. One of the most disruptive mental traps linked to limerence is the state of indefinite tension best described as limerence limbo. We are …
How to get over an office crush
When you put a group of attractive people together, in an environment where they work closely on collaborative projects, they sometimes fall in love with each other by accident. This could be great …
Coffeehouse: the search for meaning
Time for another general discussion post; a place for all the chit chat that might arise in a congenial coffee house full of limerents. Cheers! For a starting topic of conversation, I've been …
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On jealousy
Following on from last week's case study, and discussions of infidelity and polyamory in the comments, here's an interesting video about …
Keeping secrets
One of the best ways to understand limerence is as an altered state of mind that constitutes addiction to another person. There is a solid basis to this claim, given what's known about the …
Case study: I resent my husband’s limerent object
Today's case study comes from Ann, who is understandably upset about the situation she finds herself in. My husband of twelve years has been going through what I thought was a midlife crisis for …
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Coffeehouse: the big barriers to limerence recovery
Time for another visit to the virtual coffeehouse, to put the world to rights and engage in a bit of light hearted banter with friends. Today's topic for conversation is limerence recovery. From …
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