I love Spring. The world is warming up, the daffodils are out, and the sense of life renewing itself can’t help but make me feel optimistic.
Continuing the poetic theme:
In the spring a young man’s fancy lightly turns to thoughts of love.tennyson
And a young woman’s too, no doubt.
What’s the point of all this waxing lyrical? It’s not just the nostalgic ramblings of a spring-addled fool, it’s also a cunning metaphor for different kinds of renewal.
I recently took a look at the analytics for the site, and discovered something surprising. More than half of all the people visiting LwL land on just two posts: what is limerence, and how to get rid of limerence. That means that the other half of all traffic is distributed (pretty evenly) across the remaining 212 posts.
In retrospect, this is predictable. This kind of wildly skewed distribution happens all the time in nature – in economics, biology, physics, even arts and entertainment. A tiny proportion of all the creative output of the world gets a disproportionate amount of attention. The rest is only enjoyed by the true enthusiasts.
Applied to this site, I think it tells me two things. First, people arrive here after they have discovered the word “limerence,” and then Googled it to find out more. Second, once people arrive, those that feel they have found their tribe work their way through the back catalogue of limerent musings.
In many ways, I’m happy with this situation. It was always my intent to just share my thoughts and hope that fellow travellers would find me. But, there is also a nagging doubt that there are lots of limerents out there who would benefit from learning more about the way they experience romantic love, but simply have no idea that limerence as a concept and condition exists.
So, over the next few weeks, as Spring fever grips the northern hemisphere, I’m going to try an experiment. I’m going to go back to fundamentals and write about limerence from the perspective of someone who has never heard the term. To write posts that answer the questions of people who are wrestling with obsessive infatuation, but don’t know what to call it. To open new gateways into the site, with a big welcome sign over the door, for people who are suffering under the weight of person addiction and would benefit from somewhere to weather the emotional storm and make sense of what’s happening to them.
Let’s see what happens. Will Google send them our way? Will we find new recruits to the limerent army?
I hope so, because once we get their attention, we can sit around the fire and share our war stories.