Back in the pre-event era of last summer, reader Evie got in touch to ask what the hell had happened to her husband. Said husband had become limerent for a co-worker and gone full devaluation hulk-out …
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Resisting limerent urges
Limerence is an extraordinary desire. The intensity of our longing for LO falls well beyond the usual range of everyday experience, which is probably why we find it so easy to believe that our LOs …
More on the styles of love
Following on from previous posts about the different types and styles of love, here's a video interview with Helen Fisher that is quite …
Love in the time of corona
OK, maybe the title should be "limerence in the time of covid-19", but I couldn't resist the literary allusion. The current pandemic is making us all face how our lives can suddenly be thrown into …
Why do they seem so special?
Idealisation is a big part of limerence. It’s also a big part of the ‘object’ bit of limerent object. We elevate these mysterious people who walk among us into paragons - impossible romantic ideals. …
Living with Limerence, The Book
February saw the third anniversary of the blog, and anniversaries are always a good time to pause and take stock. [Stares thoughtfully into middle distance] I started this site as way to expend …