We talk a lot here at LwL about the gulf between intellectual acceptance that a limerent episode should end, and the emotional willingness to walk away. Many limerents come to the point of surveying …
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Tolerance as a protection mechanism against limerence
One of the cornerstones of purposeful living is having a clear understanding of your own goals and motivations. This principle might sound self-centred, but it needn't be - your purpose could be …
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Can we choose to fall out of love?
That's the title of this interesting TedX talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-seMFHOxZhI I have some issues with the neuroscience, but the speaker (Dessa) is great, and it's a story that …
Why limerence feels so good
Limerence feels bloody amazing. I'm several years out from my last limerence episode, and this distance can sometimes be a benefit, but it's also a limitation. It makes it easier to analyse the …
Obligation
A good discussion broke out in the comments a few weeks ago about obligation. Scharnhorst argued that obligation is one of the most powerful forces that directs our behaviour - more so than fear, …
Emergency deprogramming, mark 2
Last year, I launched an online course on how to deprogram your limerent brain. This year, I've been revising and updating it, in amongst all the other craziness that 2020 has thrown at us all. I'm …