Unwanted limerence often flares up when we are discontented with life. Not always, of course, and plenty of contented and empowered people can find their romantic lives turned upside down by a …
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Chemistry versus compatibility: how to choose a partner
One of the biggest difficulties in romantic relationships is the conflict between two necessary factors: chemistry and compatibility. Chemistry is the visceral excitement of desire - the sparky, …
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Case study: finding purpose out of limerence
One of the abiding themes of this site is that purposeful living is the fastest way to recover from limerence, and to protect yourself against future episodes. An additional benefit of that …
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Limerence and bonding
The relationship between limerence and sex is complicated. For most people, limerence is an undeniably romantic drive, and it therefore has a potent erotic element. For some people with a generally …
Coffeehouse: Jealous LOs
Another visit to the virtual coffeehouse, where important issues of the day get decided by important people. Today's topic is stimulated by commenter Blue Ivy. She's dealing with limerence for a …
Limerence and the rescue fantasy
The "rescue fantasy" was a concept first coined by Freud, to describe male clients who (in his words): ...repeatedly fall in love with a woman who is ‘of bad repute sexually’ and ‘to whom another …