In the last post we covered how fruitless it is to try and blame a limerent object for your own unwanted limerence. Even if they are to blame, it doesn't help your recovery. I stick by that principle, …
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Who is to blame for limerence?
Note: this is an updated version of a previous post Limerence can be well described as an altered state of mind. Once the infatuation for someone new sets in, it changes your perceptions, your …
Communication after an affair
Super busy with the last push to complete my book at the moment, so in lieu of a blog post, here's a video. It's a productive discussion between two therapists who come to the issue of infidelity from …
Coffeehouse: beating limerence when no contact is impossible
Another visit to the LwL coffeehouse where all of life's big problems are solved. Or people spout off to their online friends. Not sure which. Maybe both Today's topic for conversation comes …
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People who like to live in uncertainty
I've opined on many occasions that uncertainty is the rocket fuel of limerence. I've tended to discuss this from the perspective of flaky LOs who give mixed messages, behave unpredictably, or want to …
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The two tribes
Note: this is an updated version of a previous post In her landmark book, Love and Limerence, Dorothy Tennov describes how she finally formulated the concept of limerence on a long haul flight with …