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Glossary of terms

An explanation of terms for the uninitiated:

LE = limerent experience/episode (a period in which a limerent is beset by limerence)

LO = limerent object (the person that limerence is focussed on)

NC = no contact

SO = significant other

FOO = family of origin

EA = emotional affair

PA = physical affair

The glimmer = the first moment of recognition that a person is a potential LO

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