I'd planned a case study for this week's blog, but it's fallen through, so instead here's a video on how to design your life. If you read around the self-development literature for a while, you …
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The neuroscience of self-discipline
In the last post, I argued that training yourself to become more disciplined was a route to success in resisting the temptation of limerence. In the spirit of scientific debate, here's a …
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Self-discipline as limerence armour
One of the best defences against unwanted limerence is strength of character. The moral fibre, decisiveness and self-discipline to do the right thing even in the face of the tsumani of temptation that …
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Where to find purpose
In the last post I mused on how life is like a river, and how it is important to navigate it rather than just drift where the current takes you. That raises the question of where you should …
When are we most vulnerable to limerence?
In the last post, there was a good chat in the comments about purposeful living - the life philosophy that I argue is the best protection against limerence. I've posted a few times about the idea, but …
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What is heartache?
What's going on in our bodies when we feel the painful stab of romantic rejection? It's a curious thing, when you think about it: how can our hopes and fears bring about literal chest …