Limerence has two major components: The inbuilt systems of the brain that we all share, which can be activated by the right stimuliOur individual personal history that determines which stimuli …
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Case study: obsessed with my LO’s LO
Limerence is all about obsession, but sometimes the thought loops that ensnare us are surprising. Today's case study is from Violet, who was making progress in recovery before hitting a new …
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A new approach to New Year’s resolutions
Happy 2022 everyone! Every year, at this time of year, millions of people make resolutions about what they want to achieve in the year to come. I'm one of them. I enjoy the process of reviewing …
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Season’s greetings
Goodness me. Another Christmas has rolled around. 2021 has been quite a year. As if to cement the drama, my family has finally been hit by covid, having previously managed to dodge it through two …
Case study: when should I commit?
One of the consequences of being burned by limerence is that it can make you a bit cautious about romance. The discovery of limerence, and the wisdom gained by recognising that your psychological …
The Ulysses contract
Busy times in the Dr L household, and a good reminder of the need for discipline and focus when managing too many projects at once. Here's a good (if brief) talk that touches on a concept that can …