I love Spring. The world is warming up, the daffodils are out, and the sense of life renewing itself can't help but make me feel optimistic. Beside the lake, beneath the trees; Fluttering and …
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The perils of online dating for limerents
Being a middle-aged married man, the perils and pitfalls of dating are a distant memory for me now. Mostly of noisy nightclubs and flavoured vodka For people of my vintage, "going out" with …
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Why limerence is not just a crush
From time to time I get invited to contribute to a podcast or article about obsessive love, and one of the questions about limerence that is pretty much guaranteed to come up is: Isn't that …
How long will my limerence last?
The average duration of a limerent episode is between 18 months and 3 years. That estimate comes from Tennov's book, and was based on interviews with hundreds of people struggling with …
The psychology of limerent Idealisation
One of the defining features of limerence is the tendency to idealise your limerent object. You see them as Special with a capital S, different from ordinary people, extraordinary in their …
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Case study: I miss the high
A case study about the long term implications of living with limerence, today. J contacted me with a couple of questions, and an observation about life two years after her last limerence episode …