April 2022 update: The quiz developed in this post has now been set up as a complete limerence survey: available here I occasionally receive emails from people who are going through a …
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Supernormal stimuli
One of the defining features of limerence - and the feature that makes it so difficult for others to understand - is the wildly exaggerated importance that we assign to our limerent objects. Why do we …
Case study: why do I feel betrayed?
Sammy got in touch with a great suggestion for a post topic: Dorothy Tennov writes in her book that limerents often feel betrayed by their LOs (presumably after things have gone south). If you or …
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Limerence at different ages
Limerence has different effects on you at different points in your life. It's one thing for a young adult experiencing the mania for the first time and free to immerse themselves in romantic …
The Science of Love
Well, another Christmas has rolled around, and I'm busy counting my blessings and reflecting on a rough year for everyone. With all the restrictions in place in the UK, it's a less sociable Christmas …
The need for change
Limerence offers some serious life lessons. It a good idea to learn from them. When limerence arrives unexpectedly - when you weren't actively seeking romance - it can be a bit of a shock. …