Here's an astonishing video from the School of Life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eDpy5gERS8k It made me properly angry. There's a kernel of truth to the message that black and white …
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Mutual limerence
Mutual limerence is a topic that often pops up in the comments section, and in my email inbox. Some describe it as a unicorn scenario, others describe it as a curse. Many of the people who contact me …
Case study: relentless limerence
Today's case study comes from Rachel, who is happily married, but suffering from unrelenting limerence. The quick summary of her situation is that she had a hunch that a colleague of her husband was …
Coffeehouse: how to resist temptation
I've been away this week on work business, but managed to find some time between meetings to discover a lovely old-fashioned coffeehouse with oak-panelled walls, chrome fixtures and fittings, a …
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How to tell someone you just want to be friends
For compassionate people, it can be upsetting to discover that a friend has become infatuated with you. Everyone likes to be admired, but when you care for someone without having romantic feelings, …
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This crush just won’t be crushed!
Over at the New York Times, Roxane Gay writes an advice column about work and life called "Work Friend". The title of a recent edition caught my eye: The thrill of the office crush. The scenario is …