Reader Vincent suggests "The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg as a useful perspective on limerence. It's a great book. I really enjoyed it, and there are some fascinating insights. One of the …
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Unavailable LOs
Reader Jaideux asks "...is it possible that a limerent subconsciously chooses the unavailable LO (over and over in my case) because of the guaranteed outcome of failure, there is actually less …
Living with uncertainty
Uncertainty is a central feature of limerence. It acts as a fuel for deepening the obsession (constantly ruminating on what every word, gesture and meaningful look might mean), and seems to be …
What can spouses do?
When your spouse or partner becomes limerent for someone else, it stinks. Quite reasonably, many people experiencing this relationship-testing stress wonder desperately what they can do to …
Limerence and polyamory
Spin out post from a previous comment thread. Long time reader, first time commenter, Landry asks: What I’d like to know is how folks feel about polyamory and why is it that sexual/romantic/emotional …
Caring about LO
Limerence is about bonding. There's plenty of room to discuss whether it's good or bad bonding, and how it relates to longer-term love, but the central experience of limerence is becoming powerfully …