In a previous post, I described disclosure as the nuclear option for getting rid of limerence. While obviously jokey, it is true that disclosure has the potential to really blow up your life in a big …
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Limerence dreams
A defining feature of limerence is persistent, intrusive thoughts about LO. And it doesn't even let up when you are asleep. Frequent dreams about LO are very common, and can be quite informative. Now, …
Getting through the aftermath of No Contact
When limerence is a problem in life, and when an individual limerent decides to take charge of themselves and go no contact, they then face a trial of self-discipline. If this scenario applies to …
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Case study: Is my current relationship bound to be unfulfilling because it is non-limerent?
A change of pace today, stimulated by a question sent in by SK. I'll start with the disclaimer that I have no qualifications as a psychologist, psychiatrist or other professional analyst. However, I …
Should limerents feel guilty about their limerence?
One of the things that limerents in long-term relationships must confront is how big of a betrayal it is, if they become limerent for someone else. Regular readers will know that I very much …
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Flirting at work
I've talked before about flirting and how it's complicated for limerents. It's been on my mind again. There's a real sense of a sea-change in culture at the moment, with #MeToo and Oxfam and …