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Why so many relationships fail
This week's video is all about the conflict between the two tribes and how that can lead to heartache: https://youtu.be/L89OO5hHJhE It’s a sad fact that romantic relationships can fall apart …
Surviving Partner Limerence
Earlier this month, Fenna van den Berg and I launched a new community site for people whose partners have developed limerence for someone outside the relationship. Since then, we’ve been very busy …
How to tell if someone actually finds you attractive
My last YouTube video was stimulated by finding a new paper on how bad people are at judging each others attempts at mindreading romantic and sexual interest. I've written about this topic before, …
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Coffeehouse: love is not blind
Another month rolls around, and brings another visit to the LwL virtual coffeehouse endless thread. I'll never tire of the stimulation To kick off the discussions this month, here's an …
Life as a limerent: autopilot mode
Note: this is a revised and updated version of a previous post. One of the most disruptive aspects of limerence is the total attention-capture that sets in. At first, most limerents are OK with …
Launch of partner’s community
For a few weeks now, I've been trailing the launch of a new online community specifically tailored to the partners of people who have become limerent for someone else, putting their marriage or …