For a while now I’ve been talking about a new workshop I’m building, specifically designed to help deal with one of the worst problems caused by limerence: obsessive thought loops.
Obsessive thought loops are a huge problem. To judge from the number of people who contact me for support, they are the most distressing symptom of limerence.
When I ran a survey on how common limerence is, a third of all the people responding had experienced limerence that caused so much emotional distress that it was hard to enjoy life.
And it’s no wonder:
- Constant intrusive thoughts that make it impossible to concentrate on other tasks
- Lying awake, unable to sleep, as memories and images of LO cycle on repeat
- Feeling like you’re at war with your own mind
- Exhausted and wrung out, but unable to get relief
- Compulsive urges and intense cravings that are hard to resist
- Everything reminds you of them, so there’s no escape
Weirdly, though, the advice about how to cope with this state can be surprisingly cold-hearted.
You’ve just put them on a pedestal. Get to know them as a person.
S/he’s just not into you. Get over it.
You just need to distract yourself. Try a new hobby.
Plenty more fish in the sea. Find someone else.
Dude, it’s time to move on.
Even beyond such superficial advice; actual, practical help is also difficult to find.
Often therapists and counsellors will focus on understanding the root causes of your psychological vulnerability – issues like attachment style, childhood bonding, recent stress or grief that could have been a trigger.
I’m not knocking that – obviously it’s helpful – but it doesn’t actually change the immediate issue.
You’re trapped in a mental loop that can feel like torture.
So, that’s what this workshop is all about.
I’ve sifted through the literature on how to manage the intrusive thoughts of behavioural addictions, how they develop, and how they end up reinforcing the fixation.
From that evidence, and from testing with limerent clients, I’ve built a strategy for how to disrupt obsessive romantic thought loops.
It’s focused on practical steps that you can take.
Mental exercises that disrupt obsessive thought loops. Ways to decrease the intensity of cravings, without having to go no contact or give up all hope.
It has one clear goal: to help you break free of obsessive rumination about a limerent object, without withdrawal pain.
Importantly, it’s not just a lecture. It’s not just learning, it’s all about what you can do.
So, if you can’t stop thinking about someone you can’t be with, think the workshop sounds like exactly you need, and want to know more, sign up for the waitlist below!
We’re a couple of weeks away from launch, so updates will be coming soon.
p.s. There’ll also be some bonuses for early bird sign ups, so keep an eye out for those…
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