Recently, a reader, Kay, got in touch to ask about the differences in dealing with limerence for single versus married limerents. I do tend to write from the perspective of the marrieds - partly …
When things have got physical
Regular readers have probably spotted by now that I'm anti-infidelity. I cynically take these contrarian positions just to shock The problem with infidelity is the betrayal, of course, and not …
Men and women
Bit of a diversion from the usual programming today, and the sort of post that requires me to have a "random thoughts" category in the blog menu. And to manage expectations: they're going to get …
How long does limerence last?
A question I very commonly receive by email (from both limerents, and the affected spouses of limerents) is: "how long is this going to last?" I wish I could give an answer. The reality, of course, …
How to fix a broken heart
Reader Feesh sent me a link to a TED talk by Guy Winch on "How to Fix a Broken Heart." It's an interesting talk, because it has a lot of parallels to limerence. He explains heartbreak in terms of …
Happily ever after
Many people blame fairytales for their relationship problems. Especially Disney. Damn Cinderellas and Princes Charming and happilys ever after. So unrealistic. But that word, "happily", is a …