Limerence is often dismissed by unsympathetic non-limerents as “a crush”. There's a definite undertone of disdain that any adult could still suffer with such childishness. Puppy-love, crushes, …
When does limerence become an emotional affair?
In a recent conversation I was asked: How is limerence different from an emotional affair? The person asking was a non-limerent. My first reaction was befuddlement. I mean, obviously limerence …
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The loneliness of limerence
Following on from the last post on guilt, another aspect of limerence that I haven't much covered in the blog so far is the loneliness. They're linked, of course, because limerence is a guilty secret …
The stories we tell ourselves
In the previous post, I talked about reverie, and how limerents tend to rehearse scenes in their minds as a way of feeling connected to LO and trying to prepare for future meetings. Another aspect of …
Limerence dreams
A defining feature of limerence is persistent, intrusive thoughts about LO. And it doesn't even let up when you are asleep. Frequent dreams about LO are very common, and can be quite informative. Now, …
Getting through the aftermath of No Contact
When limerence is a problem in life, and when an individual limerent decides to take charge of themselves and go no contact, they then face a trial of self-discipline. If this scenario applies to …
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