I'm not a fan of this aphorism. It's true, in the sense that all human endeavours are sometimes hard work and that love is not some magical exception that just perfectly coasts along for years if you …
Intersections
An interesting question that often comes up in discussions about limerence, is the potential for overlap with other personality traits. Perhaps, given the intrusive thoughts and obsessive nature of …
Rationalisation
A treacherous tendency of the limerent brain, of which we must all be wary, is rationalisation. This takes the form of self-justifications for why interactions with LO are necessary (when they …
Taking control
When limerent for someone unsuitable, you are faced with the challenge of using your judgement and wisdom to overcome the neurophysiological storm of addictive reward, and get away from the most …
Help! My partner is limerent for someone else
One of the hardest aspects of limerence to live with is developing limerence when in long-term relationship. If it's hard for the limerent, it's even worse for the significant other. If you are the …
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Limerence, libido, and the challenge of long term romance
In the last post I analysed the sometimes strange intersections between lust and limerence. One thing that both phenomena share is transience. For lust, it can be very short-lived. Limerence is more …
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