A central premise of the "limerence as person addiction" concept is that limerence becomes addictive because of the dopamine high. Being with LO is rewarding. Thinking about LO is rewarding. You get a …
Freedom from limerence
A recent comment by long-time friend of the blog, Sharnhorst, has got me thinking. The thrust of his idea is that studying limerence, understanding limerence, and trading anecdotes and wisdom with …
The purposeful living reading list
Reader Samantha got in touch with me a while ago to ask for more information about living a more purposeful life. Specifically, she asked about the books that I would recommend about purposeful living …
When things have got physical
Regular readers have probably spotted by now that I'm anti-infidelity. I cynically take these contrarian positions just to shock The problem with infidelity is the betrayal, of course, and not …
Case study: invited to LO’s wedding
Reader Jane faces a dilemma. Her LO has invited her to his wedding. He's also being weird about it. Before Bride arrived on the scene, Jane disclosed her feelings to LO, hoping that their …
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The loneliness of No Contact
I've talked before about the loneliness of limerence. The isolation associated with limerence comes in large part from feeling that it shouldn't be happening, and that it's a shameful secret that the …