A treacherous tendency of the limerent brain, of which we must all be wary, is rationalisation. This takes the form of self-justifications for why interactions with LO are necessary (when they …
Taking control
When limerent for someone unsuitable, you are faced with the challenge of using your judgement and wisdom to overcome the neurophysiological storm of addictive reward, and get away from the most …
Limerence and sex
From the time it was first defined, limerence has been closely associated with sexual desire. LO is wanted as a sexual partner, rather than an intimate friend or companion. [Aside - it would be …
The two tribes
In her landmark book, Dorothy Tennov described how she had crystallised the concept of limerence around an interaction with a friend (who she liked and admired) on a plane journey, in which she came …
Therapy for limerence
Much of the discussion about limerence in psychological circles explicitly pathologises it as an experience, and works from the premise that it is a mental disorder arising from an underlying trauma …
Infidelity and limerence
In a previous post I wrote about emotional affairs, but sometimes matters move beyond the emotional to the physical. Hearing the immortal phrase: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," has become …