Spend some time on the pages of the collective sum of human misery that is the agony aunt blogosphere, and you'll come across the idea of the "emotional affair". Definitions vary somewhat, but the …
Can’t we just be friends?
Is it possible to be friends with your LO? You do, after all, enjoy their company. And they really seem to understand you. And you care about their happiness. Surely those are all important aspects of …
Uncertainty
Why does uncertainty have such power in cementing desire for a limerent object? It makes sense that rejection would (hopefully) kill limerent desire, but it seems a bit counterintuitive that …
Flirting
Flirting is commonplace. Some people proudly proclaim themselves shameless flirts. They flirt with everyone; nothing personal. Flirting is most often described as "harmless fun". Where seen as …
The Glimmer givers
What makes someone a potential limerent object? What special something tickles the arousal circuitry in just the right way to trigger escalating limerence? It may be a fool's errand to try and …
The Glimmer
In the last post, I argued that there is an initiating "glimmer": a frisson of excitement, that acts as an indicator that a particular person you have just encountered has the potential to become an …