One of the things I'm most curious about when it comes to limerence, is whether it is a "normal" process that can occasionally go wrong, or - by definition - a mental illness. This kind of question …
What to do if you are married but limerent for someone else
Following on from musings about midlife, one of the commonest problems that more mature limerents face is falling for a new LO when committed to someone else. This is hard enough to deal with in a …
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I’m totally over this. Let’s go for coffee!
Hee hee. Limerence and its wily ways. I recently came across this quote from Irvin Yalom (an eminent therapist) about overcoming infatuation: Nor is the dissolution a steady process. Setbacks occur— …
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The seduction of Romance
I tend to assume that limerents must all be romantics. Life certainly makes it easy - the Disney model of the one true love overlaps nicely with the idealisation of LOs. Oh, they are so very special. …
Relapse
Double meaning here - both the end to a work-induced blog hiatus, and another post on limerence as person addiction... Using the framework of "person addiction" as a way of understanding …
Rationalisation
A treacherous tendency of the limerent brain, of which we must all be wary, is rationalisation. This takes the form of self-justifications for why interactions with LO are necessary (when they …