When limerent for someone unsuitable, you are faced with the challenge of using your judgement and wisdom to overcome the neurophysiological storm of addictive reward, and get away from the most …
Therapy for limerence
Much of the discussion about limerence in psychological circles explicitly pathologises it as an experience, and works from the premise that it is a mental disorder arising from an underlying trauma …
Infidelity and limerence
In a previous post I wrote about emotional affairs, but sometimes matters move beyond the emotional to the physical. Hearing the immortal phrase: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," has become …
Resilience
When you're going through hell... keep going. Winston Churchill. As I've grown older, I've come to realise that one of the most important life skills to cultivate is resilience. It perhaps seems …
Is limerence all bad?
Although the title of this site is "living with limerence", and so could seem analogous to "living with diabetes" or "living with OCD", limerence really isn't all bad. Most limerents, if given the …
Uncertainty
Why does uncertainty have such power in cementing desire for a limerent object? It makes sense that rejection would (hopefully) kill limerent desire, but it seems a bit counterintuitive that …