I've talked before about flirting and how it's complicated for limerents. It's been on my mind again. There's a real sense of a sea-change in culture at the moment, with #MeToo and Oxfam and …
The allure of bad boys and girls
All limerents are at some point going to be confronted by the need to try and understand why they become limerent for particular LOs. Some will be unfortunate enough to realise that they repeatedly …
Why is limerence so powerful?
When in the grip of limerence, all other concerns fade into the background. LO becomes the centre of your mental world. Ironically, the impact of this phenomenon can be most obvious …
The three phases of limerence
Here's a good podcast about limerence from Joe Beam, a marriage counsellor in the US. It's quite long, but worth it because there are a few real gems. The topic of discussion is focussed on married …
What to do if you are married but limerent for someone else
Following on from musings about midlife, one of the commonest problems that more mature limerents face is falling for a new LO when committed to someone else. This is hard enough to deal with in a …
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I’m totally over this. Let’s go for coffee!
Hee hee. Limerence and its wily ways. I recently came across this quote from Irvin Yalom (an eminent therapist) about overcoming infatuation: Nor is the dissolution a steady process. Setbacks occur— …
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