A good discussion broke out in the comments a few weeks ago about obligation. Scharnhorst argued that obligation is one of the most powerful forces that directs our behaviour - more so than fear, …
Case study: stalked by LO
The consequences of a limerence episode can last longer than we want. Jasmine got in touch recently, regarding a problem that has no easy solution. Her LO is stalking her. The knee-jerk …
On forgiveness
One of the topics that comes up frequently in discussions about limerence recovery, is the issue of guilt. Sometimes arguments about guilt focus on assigning blame, or what constitutes a moral …
The morality of limerence
There's a lot of moral philosophising going on at the moment, so naturally I thought I should have a go. What could possibly go wrong? The stimulus for this particular topic is the coincidence …
Dating red flags for limerents
I write a lot about marriage and limerence (because I'm a married limerent), but I sometimes hear from friends, family and the media all about the perils of modern dating. So, for those readers still …
Limerence and the sexless marriage
Back in the early days of the blog, I wrote about limerence and libido. I argued that problems can arise in long-term relationships for those limerents who have a very tight mental association between …