Time usually resolves limerence, but sometimes we limerents impatiently wonder, where's the damn off switch? Now some people are resistant to the very idea of reducing love to a biochemical process …
What to do if you are married but limerent for someone else
Following on from musings about midlife, one of the commonest problems that more mature limerents face is falling for a new LO when committed to someone else. This is hard enough to deal with in a …
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Sometimes love takes work
I'm not a fan of this aphorism. It's true, in the sense that all human endeavours are sometimes hard work and that love is not some magical exception that just perfectly coasts along for years if you …
The seduction of Romance
I tend to assume that limerents must all be romantics. Life certainly makes it easy - the Disney model of the one true love overlaps nicely with the idealisation of LOs. Oh, they are so very special. …
Rationalisation
A treacherous tendency of the limerent brain, of which we must all be wary, is rationalisation. This takes the form of self-justifications for why interactions with LO are necessary (when they …
Taking control
When limerent for someone unsuitable, you are faced with the challenge of using your judgement and wisdom to overcome the neurophysiological storm of addictive reward, and get away from the most …