A central premise of the "limerence as person addiction" concept is that limerence becomes addictive because of the dopamine high. Being with LO is rewarding. Thinking about LO is rewarding. You get a …
The stories we tell ourselves
In the previous post, I talked about reverie, and how limerents tend to rehearse scenes in their minds as a way of feeling connected to LO and trying to prepare for future meetings. Another aspect of …
Case study: Is my current relationship bound to be unfulfilling because it is non-limerent?
A change of pace today, stimulated by a question sent in by SK. I'll start with the disclaimer that I have no qualifications as a psychologist, psychiatrist or other professional analyst. However, I …
Should limerents feel guilty about their limerence?
One of the things that limerents in long-term relationships must confront is how big of a betrayal it is, if they become limerent for someone else. Regular readers will know that I very much …
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Deprogramming the limerent brain
Time usually resolves limerence, but sometimes we limerents impatiently wonder, where's the damn off switch? Now some people are resistant to the very idea of reducing love to a biochemical process …
Is limerence a mental illness?
One of the things I'm most curious about when it comes to limerence, is whether it is a "normal" process that can occasionally go wrong, or - by definition - a mental illness. This kind of question …