On holiday this week, so today's post is a repost from the olden days of the site (2017). I'm still fascinated by the neuroscience of beauty, and why our LOs become so dazzling during limerence. The …
Limerence and bonding
The relationship between limerence and sex is complicated. For most people, limerence is an undeniably romantic drive, and it therefore has a potent erotic element. For some people with a generally …
Analysis of the limerence experience
A few weeks ago, I published a limerence quiz, designed to give people a quick and easy way to assess whether or not they fit the "limerent" personality profile when it comes to falling in …
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Why do I become obsessed with certain people?
One of the most psychologically interesting (and disconcerting) features of romantic life is the mismatch between what we think we want and what we actually desire. Few things illustrate this more …
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Why is it so hard to stop wanting someone?
As an episode of limerence progresses, there is a notable shift in the nature of the experience. Early on, the giddy infatuation is glorious - enlivening, elating, euphoric. Later, the emotional …
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What causes limerence?
Limerence can be neatly described as an altered mental state of intense infatuation. An obvious question raised by this definition is: why does it happen? What causes it? While it's a natural …