For those married folks struggling with limerence, I'm a big advocate of disclosure to your spouse as a powerful tactic for recovery. I've talked about the benefits before, but as with all …
More on midlife limerence
Midlife is a common time for limerence emergencies. There are a few good reasons for this, as we've discussed before, but in the previous post I didn't really consider what the midlife limerent was …
Case study: limerent while single
Recently, a reader, Kay, got in touch to ask about the differences in dealing with limerence for single versus married limerents. I do tend to write from the perspective of the marrieds - partly …
What’s happened to my spouse?
I've written a lot about the experience of limerence from the perspective of the limerent going through it. The impacts of limerence ripple out much further, though. I recently had an email from a …
Case study: limerent for an ex
Alice is in a spot of bother. She has been married for nearly ten years, and met her husband after a previous relationship ended. It was kind of a "soft ending" in some respects: We didn't dislike …
When things have got physical
Regular readers have probably spotted by now that I'm anti-infidelity. I cynically take these contrarian positions just to shock The problem with infidelity is the betrayal, of course, and not …