Why does uncertainty have such power in cementing desire for a limerent object? It makes sense that rejection would (hopefully) kill limerent desire, but it seems a bit counterintuitive that …
Flirting
Flirting is commonplace. Some people proudly proclaim themselves shameless flirts. They flirt with everyone; nothing personal. Flirting is most often described as "harmless fun". Where seen as …
Do they like me too?
In an earlier post, I described the second stage of limerence as "the response". So, assuming you have felt the glimmer, the next thing your limerent brain tries to determine is the possibility of …
The Glimmer givers
What makes someone a potential limerent object? What special something tickles the arousal circuitry in just the right way to trigger escalating limerence? It may be a fool's errand to try and …
The Glimmer
In the last post, I argued that there is an initiating "glimmer": a frisson of excitement, that acts as an indicator that a particular person you have just encountered has the potential to become an …
My story
This is the biographical post. Feel free to skip, if looking for more universal themes. I suppose my first experience of limerence was a crushing crush on a girl at school (we were both 16/17 at the …