Limerence offers some serious life lessons. It a good idea to learn from them. When limerence arrives unexpectedly - when you weren't actively seeking romance - it can be a bit of a shock. …
The death of hope
We talk a lot here at LwL about the gulf between intellectual acceptance that a limerent episode should end, and the emotional willingness to walk away. Many limerents come to the point of surveying …
Tolerance as a protection mechanism against limerence
One of the cornerstones of purposeful living is having a clear understanding of your own goals and motivations. This principle might sound self-centred, but it needn't be - your purpose could be …
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On not knowing what you want
Limerence upends life. Whatever your situation when a new LO appears in your world, everything changes. The disruption is probably most severe if the limerent is already in a long-term …
Why limerence feels so good
Limerence feels bloody amazing. I'm several years out from my last limerence episode, and this distance can sometimes be a benefit, but it's also a limitation. It makes it easier to analyse the …
Obligation
A good discussion broke out in the comments a few weeks ago about obligation. Scharnhorst argued that obligation is one of the most powerful forces that directs our behaviour - more so than fear, …