One of the arguments I make about why we are vulnerable to limerence is that the extraordinary sensations associated with that mental state of total infatuation are transformational. If life in …
How to get over infatuation
It's tough when you can't get someone out of your head. At first, infatuation can be a giddy and exhilarating experience. The thrill of attraction, the promise of romance... it's …
Dealing with the guilt of limerence
Recently, commenter BLE raised the issue of guilt. Specifically, guilt that she is currently finding it hard to be fully present for her son. It's a battle we all face - being there for the …
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Post navigation: a greatest hits collection
The Living with Limerence site has grown steadily over the last five years, and we're now at a point where it's hard to keep track of all the content. I find myself frequently responding to comments …
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Limerence as an altered state of mind
Dorothy Tennov described limerence as an altered mental state. In her early work in understanding romantic attachment, she gathered and curated the self-reported experiences of people who were …
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Limerence or love addiction?
One of the difficulties in understanding and overcoming limerence is the problem of clearly understanding what it is. Part of the reason that this is so challenging is that love and romance is an area …