I've written a few posts about what makes someone unusually attractive, why some people seem so addictive, and what kind of people are good at provoking infatuation - what makes them, in short, …
Case study: obsessed with my LO’s LO
Limerence is all about obsession, but sometimes the thought loops that ensnare us are surprising. Today's case study is from Violet, who was making progress in recovery before hitting a new …
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A new approach to New Year’s resolutions
Happy 2022 everyone! Every year, at this time of year, millions of people make resolutions about what they want to achieve in the year to come. I'm one of them. I enjoy the process of reviewing …
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Case study: when should I commit?
One of the consequences of being burned by limerence is that it can make you a bit cautious about romance. The discovery of limerence, and the wisdom gained by recognising that your psychological …
The Ulysses contract
Busy times in the Dr L household, and a good reminder of the need for discipline and focus when managing too many projects at once. Here's a good (if brief) talk that touches on a concept that can …
What causes obsession with another person?
Obsession comes in different forms. Sometimes we can become fixated on a fear, or a memory, or a vice, which captures our attention so completely that our thoughts become a prison. Other times, we …
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