Limerence can be neatly described as an altered mental state of intense infatuation. An obvious question raised by this definition is: why does it happen? What causes it? While it's a natural …
Flow state, limerence recovery and purposeful living
The ultimate solution to limerence is purposeful living. That's because limerence is a hyperactive mental state that needs to be de-escalated, built on an underlying psychological vulnerability …
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Limerence for unhealthy people
From time to time, I hear from people who repeatedly become limerent for individuals who are unavailable, unreliable, or just generally have bad character. Their limerent objects are unhealthy to bond …
How to stop thinking about someone you can’t have
It's a curious thing, obsession. One day you meet an amazing, attractive person, maybe get to know them a little, and luxuriate in the warmth of their delightful company. You find yourself …
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Who are you attracted to?
I've written a few posts about what makes someone unusually attractive, why some people seem so addictive, and what kind of people are good at provoking infatuation - what makes them, in short, …
Case study: obsessed with my LO’s LO
Limerence is all about obsession, but sometimes the thought loops that ensnare us are surprising. Today's case study is from Violet, who was making progress in recovery before hitting a new …
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