Life, love, and limerence
One of the most destructive forms of limerence is when a married person becomes limerent for someone else. There is an abundance of pain to go around: most obviously for the innocent spouse, but also …
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One of the more painful scenarios that limerents have to deal with is when their limerence avatar is "unavailable people". I've written before about the challenges of unavailable LOs. It's a …
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Today's topic was proposed by reader Mana, who wondered about the benefits of writing a letter to LO. That struck me as a subject that could benefit from the distributed wisdom of the LwL community, …
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It is an agony most of us have known: you develop romantic feelings for a friend, but they don't feel the same way about you. The disappointment of rejection hurts, of course, but even more serious is …
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One of the biggest difficulties in romantic relationships is the conflict between two necessary factors: chemistry and compatibility. Chemistry is the visceral excitement of desire - the sparky, …
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The "rescue fantasy" was a concept first coined by Freud, to describe male clients who (in his words): ...repeatedly fall in love with a woman who is ‘of bad repute sexually’ and ‘to whom another …
