Another visit to the virtual coffeehouse, where important issues of the day get decided by important people. Today's topic is stimulated by commenter Blue Ivy. She's dealing with limerence for a …
Limerence and the rescue fantasy
The "rescue fantasy" was a concept first coined by Freud, to describe male clients who (in his words): ...repeatedly fall in love with a woman who is ‘of bad repute sexually’ and ‘to whom another …
Coffeehouse: dark empaths
Another check in at the LwL coffeehouse. It's fun to sometimes speculate about the kinds of people who make for dodgy limerent objects. It's also useful to adopt a more mocking or cynical view …
How to stop thinking about someone you can’t have
It's a curious thing, obsession. One day you meet an amazing, attractive person, maybe get to know them a little, and luxuriate in the warmth of their delightful company. You find yourself …
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Case study: post-limerence melancholy
Today's limerence quandary comes from C, who is coming out of her most recent limerent episode into an emotional wasteland. C is married, and has been limerent multiple times, both before and …
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Case study: obsessed with my LO’s LO
Limerence is all about obsession, but sometimes the thought loops that ensnare us are surprising. Today's case study is from Violet, who was making progress in recovery before hitting a new …
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