Many of the relationship problems created by limerence result from a conflict between the wild fantasy ideal that limerence promises and the workaday reality of actually living with another …
Case study: polyamory and unwelcome limerence
Today's case study is from Ashley, a reader who is polyamorous and in a polycule with three partners. I'm going to confess at the outset that I find some of the terminology for these new social …
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Limerence in the New York Times
A few weeks ago I had an enjoyable chat with a journalist, Amanda McCracken, who was writing an article about limerence for the New York Times. The article is now out (paywall). It's a good …
Is limerence personal or universal?
One of the challenges of taking an academic approach to studying limerence is that so much of the evidence about it comes from personal testimony. When Dorothy Tennov first proposed the concept of …
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Coffeehouse: the comfort of the familiar
Time for another virtual sip at the LwL coffeehouse. Tasty Today's topic of conversation (or at least, the starting point - I know you wonderful, crazy folks ramble wherever you may) is inspired …
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How risky are limerent fantasies?
Limerent reverie - daydreaming and fantasising about consummation with your limerent object - is a habit that almost all limerents indulge in. It is a private pleasure, a secret source of reward, a …