Note: this is an updated version of a previous post In her landmark book, Love and Limerence, Dorothy Tennov describes how she finally formulated the concept of limerence on a long haul flight with …
How common is limerence: the numbers
A long-running unanswered question about limerence is how common it is in the general population. When she first articulated the idea, Dorothy Tennov didn't really give a clear answer. She talked …
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Limerence and the second sex
I've always been rather impressed by the fact that the original text on limerence - Love and Limerence, by Dorothy Tennov - had a cover jacket blurb by Simone de Beauvoir. I mean, talk about bragging …
Skills for a healthy relationship
Many of the relationship problems created by limerence result from a conflict between the wild fantasy ideal that limerence promises and the workaday reality of actually living with another …
Case study: polyamory and unwelcome limerence
Today's case study is from Ashley, a reader who is polyamorous and in a polycule with three partners. I'm going to confess at the outset that I find some of the terminology for these new social …
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Limerence in the New York Times
A few weeks ago I had an enjoyable chat with a journalist, Amanda McCracken, who was writing an article about limerence for the New York Times. The article is now out (paywall). It's a good …