In the last post I laid out a case for why monogamy exists. It provoked some sturdy objections in the comments, and some good discussion as to whether the arguments were flawed. This week the goal …
Why does monogamy exist?
An interesting discussion about monogamy broke out in the comments of the last post. The subject of limerence and polyamory comes up from time to time, and not only from limerents who are …
Case study: limerence and ego
A reader got in touch recently, to ponder about the relationship between limerence and ego. A couple of years ago, R found herself in the awful sweet spot of bathing in professional praise and …
Can infatuation be platonic?
From time to time I hear from people who are experiencing the symptoms of limerence for someone they are not sexually attracted to. For many people this can be a confusing experience. Is it …
Limerence as escape
One of the arguments I make about why we are vulnerable to limerence is that the extraordinary sensations associated with that mental state of total infatuation are transformational. If life in …
How to get over infatuation
It's tough when you can't get someone out of your head. At first, infatuation can be a giddy and exhilarating experience. The thrill of attraction, the promise of romance... it's …