A few weeks ago I had an enjoyable chat with a journalist, Amanda McCracken, who was writing an article about limerence for the New York Times. The article is now out (paywall). It's a good …
Is limerence personal or universal?
One of the challenges of taking an academic approach to studying limerence is that so much of the evidence about it comes from personal testimony. When Dorothy Tennov first proposed the concept of …
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Coffeehouse: the comfort of the familiar
Time for another virtual sip at the LwL coffeehouse. Tasty Today's topic of conversation (or at least, the starting point - I know you wonderful, crazy folks ramble wherever you may) is inspired …
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How risky are limerent fantasies?
Limerent reverie - daydreaming and fantasising about consummation with your limerent object - is a habit that almost all limerents indulge in. It is a private pleasure, a secret source of reward, a …
Limerence limbo
Note: this is an updated version of an older post. One of the most disruptive mental traps linked to limerence is the state of indefinite tension best described as limerence limbo. We are …
Keeping secrets
One of the best ways to understand limerence is as an altered state of mind that constitutes addiction to another person. There is a solid basis to this claim, given what's known about the …





