It's tough when you can't get someone out of your head. At first, infatuation can be a giddy and exhilarating experience. The thrill of attraction, the promise of romance... it's …
Dealing with the guilt of limerence
Recently, commenter BLE raised the issue of guilt. Specifically, guilt that she is currently finding it hard to be fully present for her son. It's a battle we all face - being there for the …
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Case study: limerent for a mentor
It's been a while since we considered a case study, and this one is a little mysterious. Lotus got in touch with me about her situation, but using an apparently fake or dead email address. That has …
Purposeful living for single limerents
I focus a lot on the perspective of married limerents, for an obvious reason (I'm married). However, that perspective tends to be backwards looking. What I mean by that is that limerence has …
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Design your (purposeful) life
I'd planned a case study for this week's blog, but it's fallen through, so instead here's a video on how to design your life. If you read around the self-development literature for a while, you …
The neuroscience of self-discipline
In the last post, I argued that training yourself to become more disciplined was a route to success in resisting the temptation of limerence. In the spirit of scientific debate, here's a …
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