One of the main goals of this site is to help people make sense of what's happening to them during limerence. Understanding that such intense romantic infatuation is a defined phenomenon, that it has …
Cultivating purpose
I started this blog in February 2017. At the time, I was coming down from a brutal limerence episode, and my primary motive was to exorcise the lingering feelings that were clinging on, and to …
How to change your behaviour for the better
One of the few benefits that can come from an episode of unwanted limerence is being forced to face some home truths about what you're doing with your life. There's nothing like the emotional storm of …
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For those who are stuck
Following on from last week's discussion about whether fighting for a relationship is a good idea, the opposite problem is also a common trigger for limerence... Should I stay with them? …
Can you be friends with your crush?
It is an agony most of us have known: you develop romantic feelings for a friend, but they don't feel the same way about you. The disappointment of rejection hurts, of course, but even more serious is …
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Finding purpose through ikigai
Unwanted limerence often flares up when we are discontented with life. Not always, of course, and plenty of contented and empowered people can find their romantic lives turned upside down by a …