Super busy with the last push to complete my book at the moment, so in lieu of a blog post, here's a video. It's a productive discussion between two therapists who come to the issue of infidelity from …
People who like to live in uncertainty
I've opined on many occasions that uncertainty is the rocket fuel of limerence. I've tended to discuss this from the perspective of flaky LOs who give mixed messages, behave unpredictably, or want to …
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Emotional resistance, limerence and purposeful living
I've been thinking a lot recently about the emotional resistance that we feel when confronted with the need to change our lives. I argue - and sincerely believe - that the best cure for unwanted …
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Limerence and the second sex
I've always been rather impressed by the fact that the original text on limerence - Love and Limerence, by Dorothy Tennov - had a cover jacket blurb by Simone de Beauvoir. I mean, talk about bragging …
Skills for a healthy relationship
Many of the relationship problems created by limerence result from a conflict between the wild fantasy ideal that limerence promises and the workaday reality of actually living with another …
Signs that your partner doesn’t respect you
In the last post, we discussed the many problems of dealing with limerence in marriage, and the emotional storm that betrayed partners have to contend with. One of the chief difficulties in …
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