Here’s a great presentation by the philosopher Ruth Chang on how the choices we make create the distinct person that we are.
It’s not specific to limerence, of course – more related to the concept of living a purposeful life. The basic message is that when faced with a hard choice (defined as one in which it is not possible to identify a superior option, because each depends on a nebulous collection of unknowable and parallel outcomes), it is an opportunity to both decide the kind of person that we are, and assert it through our actions. Our hard choices define us – both by communicating to others who we are, but also by literally reshaping our lives through the outcomes of the choice that we commit to.
Good brain food.